You Can’t Pour From an Empty Cup
It’s cliche, but it’s true— you can’t pour from an empty cup. This week I found myself in the midst of a global pandemic (which has had me on edge since March) as well as dealing with a super sick pup, some familial stress, and some (good, but) intense career moves. All of this left me feeling drained, and before I knew it I was acting a little out of character; more snappy, less patient, etc.
Setting boundaries— even with friends and family— and remembering that self-care isn’t selfish is also a huge game-changer, IMO.
Before I go any further, let me say I always feel odd going on about ‘wellness’ on this site because, truly, I am not an expert in the wellness space. I just know how I practice self-care and what works for me in terms of managing depression, an OCD diagnosis and the stressors of the world in general.
All that said, this is how I unwind to refill my cup, and make myself feel a little less “empty” on the worst days:
Self-care: make time for it, and practice it often
Some of my favorite self-care things are small but mighty habits I’ve developed, especially during this work from home period of time. Taking a quick jog or doing some kind of HIIT workout (online, of course) in between tasks and meetings has helped me become physically healthier during this time, but also mentally more attuned and at ease. Exercise releases endorphins, which in-turn help your brain create the “happy” chemicals, like dopamine. Exercise, whatever you’re able to do, is a great way to connect with your body for a few moments and tune-out of your own head (and into the physical world around you.)
Another small habit I’ve developed is taking a few moments to put my headphones in and listen to a song I really love. I’ll go into my bedroom, or take a stroll, or just find any place to be alone, and then I turn on an album or an artist (or even a specific song I really, really love) for just a few minutes. I take this time to put the world away and just listen for a few moments, and it makes all the difference.
Last but not least, remembering to do basic things like drink water and wash my face regularly throughout the day and check in with friends and family, even via text has done wonders. Also, avoiding social media when I’m feeling maxed out, and a litany of other small lifestyle habits that help me get out of my own head. Sometimes, that’s all it takes.
So, how do you practice self-care? How do you wind-down after (or even during) a rough day, week, or month? Let’s discuss, because I’m always open to new wellness ideas.
Xoxo, MM.