What to do When You’re Feeling Lonely and Insecure (AKA, Your Anxiety is Lying to You)

In the week or so after my period, I always find a strange post-period symptom occurs for me— I get this nagging, poor self-esteem feeling that convinces me (without any apparent outside source or reason, every time) that everyone hates me.

I know it’s not true. I know, logically, I am loved by an amazing husband, family, and many friends— but shew, does that anxiety get loud a week or so out of the month.

When your anxiety or depression thought loops are lying to you, here’s what you can do to reset your focus and remember you’re more loved than you know.

Remember, you are loved

Reach. Out. It may seem weird or uncomfortable, but reaching out and genuinely telling a loved one how you’re feeling can make a huge difference. People don’t always know when we’re struggling, so reaching out for support lets them know you’re open and seeking support, which they’re likely very willing to give you (because people who love you genuinely do care and want to help, despite what your anxiety lies may be telling you).

Get outside, see someone. It can feel like the hardest thing to do— to follow through on those plans you made when you’re suddenly feeling blahhhhh— but it’s SO worth it. Seeing a friend or loved one even via FaceTime or Zoom for a few minutes or a few hours can make a huge difference in reminding us we are loved and have some support— human connection is incredible, and it can aid us in so many ways.

Most importantly, remind yourself that anxiety is lying to you. You are loved, you are enough.

If you ever feel this way, just know my email and DMs are always open. Stay well,

Xoxo, MM.